Busy Mama Struggle: How on Earth Do I Fit it All In?

Here’s one of the main struggles you guys have shared with me recently:

“How on earth do I fit it all in? I’m super busy with my career and family and I find it nearly impossible to do what I need to do to make progress with my goals.”

I hear you guys, and trust me, there are days that I feel the same way. Usually by the time I leave the house in the morning I’ve changed two diapers, crawled around on the floor to pick up handfuls of unwanted breakfast food, and at least one person has cried (usually not me, lol.) That’s all before 8AM. I know how you feel by the end of the day. I feel it too.

If you know me or work with me, you know I don’t take a no-excuses approach. You know I’m not into pushing through at all costs and you know I don’t believe in go-hard or go home. Really, I don’t. I DO believe that we always have the opportunity to make changes that help us move in the direction of our goals. Now is as good a time as any to make those changes. As busy moms, the reality is that we have no choice but to be efficient if we’re going to fit it all in.

So today I’m calling bullshit on the ‘I have no time’ mentality, because we all have choices to make about how we spend our time.  We all have the opportunity to build the healthy choices into our day. We can always focus on the things that we CAN do rather than dwelling on the things we can’t.

Think small (not big): It’s my personal belief that when you adopt the little changes, that a sort of synergism happens, where the sum of all of your actions is bigger than the individual parts. So when I say think small (not big) what I mean is choose three little tune ups to your lifestyle: drinking more water, walking more, taking stairs, parking farther away, eating more vegetables, taking a multivitamin, eating protein at every meal or whatever resonates with you. Pick just three and commit to those. I guarantee you that this will help shift your mindset towards more active and healthy living in general, and once you’ve fully adopted those little changes you can check in and revise them with progressively more challenging tweaks and changes.

Think good (not perfect): Forget about weighing your food, or counting macros, or fitting your food into those tiny colour coded containers. (I have a strong dislike for all of the above.) Don’t worry if you can’t make it to the gym five days per week for an hour each time. Focus on good, not perfect choices. If you can commit to one spin class per week, great go for it and don’t worry about what you can’t do. If you can plan out your meals for the week: amazing, this will help you make better choices as the week progresses.  If you have an opportunity to walk instead of driving: great, take it, and don’t worry about the times when you have no choice but to drive. Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good. Do what you can, when you can.

Something truly IS better than nothing: This is a no brainer. When you have the choice to pick something over nothing, make the choice and pick something.  If you miss your opportunity to go to the gym, you can likely still fit in a 20 minute circuit at home. If you don’t have your ideal breakfast ingredients, I’m sure you can come up with a healthy(ish) plan B, other than Lucky Charms. Pick something over nothing.

When it comes to fitting everything in, there will always be trade-offs, there’s no doubt about that. We need to be aware of doing the best we can with the time we do have. xo J

 

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